Let's talk about sex, baby.
Here's the thing--in my experience--it's only good when a) you want it, b) you feel good about yourself with the person you're doing it with, c)there are genuine feelings of affection and caring--dare I say, LOVE--between the two of you and d)you're comfortable enough to ask for what you need or direct said-partner to give it to you.
If any of those things do not apply, it's not worth it. 21-year old Nikki would have never believed me on this because it seemed like everyone in the world was doing it but her and it made her feel like an outcast and an unloveable ogre but it's the truth. The movies, the television shows, those awful beauty magazines that do nothing but make you feel ugly, they keep telling you that sex is always good, sex is always sexy and everyone is having sex.
Lies, young Nikki, lies. Sex is sloppy and kinda awkward at times and there's giggling involved and no, you don't orgasm in 2 minutes every time. Lies, media monster, lies.
But man, when it's good and you are with someone who knows your body and loves you...
It really does make the world go around. And that's the damn truth.
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